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Positive Thinking Doesn't Work?

This is an excerpt from My response to a post by the fabulous Jennifer Shelton at FemCentral.  I've modified it to speak directly to you.

 

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Semantics.  What one person calls "positive thinking" is called "mindfulness" by another person writing a book to sell.  "Positive thinking" can also be included in chanting, meditation, and so many other modalities designed to gain control over FEAR = False Experiences Appearing Real.

In My experience, Positive Thinking is actually CHOOSING empowering thoughts and actions over disempowering ones.  The same amount of time and energy spent on worrying about something that -could- happen can be spent on focusing on what you -want- to create and "Love Me Time" which allows you to get out of the way of achieving your goals.  The stress that people choose to "think" with determines manifestation.

The bottom line is RESPONSIBILITY and ACTION. There is no one thing that is going to be a cure-all for every person.  We are responsible for trying and adapting new things all the time and evolving along THE PROCESS OF OUR DEVELOPMENT.  This requires commitment.

And cultural perspective is thrown in there, too.  It's not only what society tells you to want, it's HOW you choose to want it.  For example, "positive thinking" will only work as far as the whiny-person-who-believes-she-is-entitled-to-everything-without-making-an-effort is willing NOT to whine.  In cultures that expect instant gratification and permanent healing from a pill, the idea that TOOLS such as "positive thinking," meditation, affirmation (and everything else that is designed to RE-CONDITION your thought processes) actually require continuous exercise immediately makes people insist that the TOOLS do not work.  In reality, people are not "working the tools."

Such laziness and lack of gratitude for all that IS available to Us to figure out how to work for Our individual needs is why We have a society of fat, lazy, slovenly individuals suing McDonald's for the fact that they CHOOSE to eat the toxic food rather than do the work to eat healthily.

All of this relates to self-worth; do you believe you are WORTHY of what you desire?

You are not entitled to anything; you have to do the work to DESERVE everything.  You have to Work Your Magick (which IS everything that you choose to design in your life). 

The Comfort Zone of "focusing on being the victim" is the perfect way for all these people to get rich writing books, etc., for and against everything that has worked throughout "herstory" to validate people staying in their comfort zones and whining about it.

It's not that something that has been proven to work for a multitude of others "doesn't work;" YOU aren't working it.

Discipline is a good thing and self-discipline is the greatest of your powers.

 

 

Looking for Lovelies for Party Service 7/28 NYC

After a long hiatus due to a horrible fall down a flight of marble stairs, I'm back and starting My events off with a fabulous after-work, Play Party!

Since it is summer and folks are indulging in vacations, 2 of My Lovelies will be unable to assist Me on 7/28.

So, I am offering a fantastic opportunity for 2 subs (with good manners and presentation) to assist at My SWIRL After-Work ClassicFetish™ Play Party - see details below.

What makes service to Me at My Events so fabulous? 1 hour on duty, 1 hour off duty so you have time to commune and Play!

Duties will include clean-up, bartending, setup and break down, so your commitment will be for the entire evening. I promise to have you on your way home (if that's where you choose to go) by 12:30AM.

If interested, contact Me DIRECTLY at MistressDidi1@gmail.com with 7/28 PARTY ASSISTANT in the Subject Line of your email.

If things work out, you may be able to attend My future events and/or private soirees as My Special Guest with a friend!

Always MY Pleasure,
The Mistress Didi

EVENT: The Return of SWIRL ~ After-Work ClassicFetish™ Play Party
DATE: Thursday, July 28, 2011
TIME: 6:00PM – Midnight
EVENT TYPE: Casual Meet & Greet, Fetish Art Party
LOCATION: PRIVATE Midtown Venue – RSVP ONLY
CONTACT: http://PartyDomme.com

The Return of SWIRL ~ After-Work ClassicFetish™Play Party ~ blending your Fetish with your vanilla!

SWIRL is created for you to be able to attend a PRIVATE, Fetish gathering straight from work, have good conversations with good people, enjoy nice wines and hors d’oeuvres, Play, and still get enough rest to work the next day!

SWIRL attends to your desire to entertain what thrills you in a civilized, adult environment that appeals to your senses and sensibilities.

MORE INFO: SWIRL 7/28

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I pity the self-loathing

Lately, I have been a bit blue due the bad behaviors exhibited by many, many people who choose to behave abominably. While I struggle every day to find the beauty in people of this culture that embraces ugliness as a "starting point," I find Myself a bit fatigued.  Well, that's what I get for (1) having expectations in the first place that most people work towards being the Highest they can be and (2) fantasizing that they desire to be better than common and trite instead of paying attention to the truth these people show Me.

Along with that annoyance are the people who attempt to "top" Me via what I refer to as "reindeer games" - you know, the "make-wrong" tactics (as demonstrated poorly on a daily basis by the teabaggers).  They try to "trap" you with a comment about something you say and/or do that is intended to put you on the defensive while feigning to place themselves on a higher level of consciousness than where they see evidence that you are.

The reasons these reindeer games do not work on Me are:

1. I "walk My talk."  EVERYTHING you will read that I have presented to and for you is My absolute Truth.
   


2. I am not concerned with whether or not people like Me.  I honestly feel that those who are worthy of My time, consideration and attention are those who will "get" Me and My message and choose to enjoy My Domain.  Anyone with a nefarious intention cannot exist in My Domain because it IS about Truth.  I am brave enough to face My Truth and, therefore, am not rattled by anyone else's inability to accept what IS about Me and My Life.
   


3. I love and accept Myself, permit Myself opportunities to grow, and work to operate on Higher Levels of consciousness on a daily basis.  Yes, this is quite a challenge, and it really does help to be a sadist...
   


4. I have no attachment to people agreeing with Me.  Everyone experiences life differently and I respect that.  I also have no attachment to agreeing with others.  Agreement is not as important as respect is - without respect, there is nothing.
   

What is so tedious about these reindeer gamers is that I have taken the time to put everything you need to know about Me on the internet, available for free and they don't bother to read it - they just look for something to attempt to top Me.

Evidence of a Higher Level of Consciousness is compassion.  I pity "haters" and venerate "appreciaters".  I understand that The Mirror is the true test of how you care for yourself.  When you look in The Mirror, do you love yourself? like yourself?

Though I see these reindeer gamers clearly, and it would be all too easy to drop down to their level to make sure that they understand that I am not the one they can feed their negativity with, I choose to educate them with the opportunity to grow towards the self-love that will make their lives happy and whole. 

Education is the reason I give How To Present yourself To A Mistress for FREE and continuing in the giving spirit, purchases of the full version support My Charities.

I truly believe that if you're not a part of the solution, you're a part of the problem.  I am a a major part of the solution to what is important in My Domain.

I am so glad to love what I see in The Mirror.  I sincerely wish that joy to everyone and I support you in doing the work to have this joy.

 

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